tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post1073056002161738240..comments2023-10-07T02:58:21.880-05:00Comments on Nuestra Vida Dulce: A TearjerkerJoihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00456568792204310515noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-54093452383015061762014-02-04T20:49:44.100-06:002014-02-04T20:49:44.100-06:00Its very hard to be a mom, but babéis giros, and b...Its very hard to be a mom, but babéis giros, and become this little and individual persons, maybe will help to think in others who have a moré difficoult situation, i have 19 month old baby boy, who born with a congenital heart defect, belive me, that is a real cause of depression, but even that i know mothers who have great hey challenges, autism, down síndrom those aré the real brave moms, think of them and you will see your problemas very a all<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-5290056814278459562014-01-30T15:47:18.305-06:002014-01-30T15:47:18.305-06:00Oh my goodness. I don't even know how I got to...Oh my goodness. I don't even know how I got to your blog today but it has me in tears for you and for me, even though my son is 4.5 years old...it was like reading about my experience. And almost no one got it. I remember when he was 5 months old going to visit my aunt and uncle and they GOT ME. Their little one - 5 year old at the time - had been one of the fussy ones and they knew exactly what I was going through. Just hearing that made me feel better. But wow, I think about it now and I realize I might still have post-traumatic stress syndrome. Anyway good luck to you, congrats for having the courage to post this, and for being on the other side now! :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-20946561414060770602014-01-09T21:07:08.017-06:002014-01-09T21:07:08.017-06:00I needed to comment that I too have been there and...I needed to comment that I too have been there and felt those things, and cried those tears on the floor in the kitchen. I too didn't go anywhere, or sleep, for a year. I too nursed around the clock and yet didn't feel that bond with my daughter for the longest time, since her cries were so painful to my ears and to my soul. She is now five years old, and beautiful, kind, thoughtful, and a wonderful big sister to two little brothers...yes, I went on to have two more, and prayed through each pregnancy that I wouldn't have to endure that pain and trauma again, and fortunately my boys were "normal" babies, and i feel I savored the moments with them so much more and defiantly didn't take them for granted!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-89086790783784950352014-01-08T19:09:40.131-06:002014-01-08T19:09:40.131-06:00OMG what a powerful post. I can empathize complet...OMG what a powerful post. I can empathize completely. My son cried non stop at until he was about 6 months old. Nothing made him happy. I felt helpless and defeated everyday. It was such a horrible feeling to have that your newborn hates you, but that's how it seemed. He's 6 years old now and the crying phase is over, but he's still a very particular kid. I'm so glad to hear you are having better days now. Thanks so much for sharing your story. Shavonda@AHomeFullOfColorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17239331529418919451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-13302248124453904312014-01-06T08:56:51.975-06:002014-01-06T08:56:51.975-06:00It may seem like everyone else is taking their bab...It may seem like everyone else is taking their baby to parties, parks, and so on. However, even though I think I have an average baby, I have to take his photo in between the times when he's cyring. So many of my "happy baby" photos are mere minutes before total meltdowns. We take him places (like friends' houses or the grocery store) sometimes, but we know that he could start crying inconsolably at any time. I think it's like that with most babies, even "good" and "easy" babies. As for Theron, I am truly sorry that it has been so difficult between you and him. I knew, even before having a baby, that some kids just cry all the time. I got lucky by having a baby that only cries some of the time and not all of it. Thank you for sharing your story with others - I am sure that hearing your story will help other moms (and dads) who are going through the same thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-16987216765312411422013-12-19T15:17:57.790-06:002013-12-19T15:17:57.790-06:00My son was born a few months before your little ma...My son was born a few months before your little man. And I had the baby blues. Stuck around the entire time I was on maternity leave. I had the perfect little baby but I couldn't truly appreciate him because of my depression. I remember looking forward to your blog and seeing how motherhood was going for you. And when your husband started to blog about the little man I just knew something must have been going on with you. You know I as I reflect I'm grateful for the time and I'm glad I went through it because everything I learned about myself and the mother I want to be. Hugs to you, I hope you are able to enjoy the holiday break with your little man. It's such a magical time at this age (in between the tantrums!).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12231630022083174487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-48290431934654117252013-12-12T22:01:22.080-06:002013-12-12T22:01:22.080-06:00One major, big, ginormous hug coming your way, mam...One major, big, ginormous hug coming your way, mama! You are stronger than you know.Gabbi @ Retro Ranch Renohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14641909611270428996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-90805357783972580722013-12-12T18:58:00.737-06:002013-12-12T18:58:00.737-06:00Hey Joi! I know you had your struggles with T in t...Hey Joi! I know you had your struggles with T in the beginning and I can't pretend I know how you feel. It hurts my heart to hear about it (especially to my friend!) and I'm so sorry that you had to go through it on a daily basis for so long. <br />Also, I just read your kitchen post, and my goodness. That does not even look like the same kitchen. You are so talented! What an amazing, AMAZING home you are creating. Leslie Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18329990956548966638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-88653748112958470572013-12-12T09:01:16.596-06:002013-12-12T09:01:16.596-06:00Thank you for sharing your story. I had a very fu...Thank you for sharing your story. I had a very fussy and whining baby until he was about 6 months old. He would scream for hours in the evening through early morning and the fussiness continued until he was about 6 months old. I called the pediatrician so many times because I was certain something was wrong with my baby and I wanted a re-do. It is painful to admit that while I had a healthy baby I had regretted the decision to become a mother. I had PPD until my son was about 1 year. Even after that he wasn't physically on schedule so we were doing OT and PT weekly. It was exhausting. 2 1/2 years later I'm in a much different place, not as dark. My son now is so much different but it still hard to look at his newborn pictures and see how angry he was or to even think about doing it again. Everyone assures me that no two babies are the same, but I would relive it again if I had the same sweet, caring and lovable son that I have now. It feels good to know I wasn't the only one who hated newborn stage and I am bookmarking this and the other site to read later when I need a reminder I am not a bad mom.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04378903834091064153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-49485064049206222862013-12-12T05:53:43.262-06:002013-12-12T05:53:43.262-06:00This post really touched me. I think as moms it ca...This post really touched me. I think as moms it can be hard to admit when we are having a hard time or when our children are being truly difficult to the point where we are not enjoying motherhood because that makes us feel like a bad mother. This post reminded me that it is ok to feel overwhelmed and to admit to myself that this motherhood thing is really hard. Thank you for your openness. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-31421308481250895682013-12-11T22:43:51.305-06:002013-12-11T22:43:51.305-06:00You know, Ashford was pretty easy as a baby, but o...You know, Ashford was pretty easy as a baby, but once he turned 8 months is when my depression kicked in. He wouldn't eat, was very touchy, fussy, hard to take anywhere, a total handful. When he only weighed 18 pounds at a year and basically fell off his growth chart, I totally felt like a failure because I couldn't get him to eat and I also wanted to slap his face when he would just wail and wail in the high chair. Now he's 18 months and still so hard, still doesn't like to eat, he won't say any words besides 'shoe' and that worries me so much. Just know that over this past year I have felt that motherhood is more NOT FUN than fun. I question the sanity of people that have more than one, even as I struggle to only have one...because I would rather have 2, but don't think I can mentally and physically handle it. So, you're not alone and I'm so sorry you went through all that! We are all learning now what our moms may have gone through, it definitely is eye-opening!Sara @ Russet Street Renohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18120089301670852587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-89548665634893987352013-12-11T10:03:07.924-06:002013-12-11T10:03:07.924-06:00Oh how I can relate to this Joi...I'm so proud...Oh how I can relate to this Joi...I'm so proud of you for sharing your honest story. While my boys weren't screaming/crying all the time, I was VERY overwhelmed and depressed the first few months and it was so rough. I'm sure your story will help at least one other mom who is going through something similar. Knowing you aren't alone makes a world of difference. Big hugs to you! Mandy Ford Art & Illustrationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290049477795062895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-26487867161156428802013-12-11T09:22:12.079-06:002013-12-11T09:22:12.079-06:00This is beautifully written- thank you for sharing...This is beautifully written- thank you for sharing this with us!! I can absolutely relate- B had acid reflux as a baby. He was a pretty easy newborn until around 6weeks and then it was like someone flipped a switch. He screamed all the time, and I also counted down the days until I could go back to work a get a break. Screaming non stop gets very old very quickly and is so exhausting to listen to. I would dread the times he was awake, and I would pray that he would stay asleep whenever we went somewhere so he wouldn't start crying. We eventually figured out his issue was a dairy/soy intolerance and once we got him on the right formula, he became a happier little boy. He still makes it known when he is not happy though. Hugs to you, and know that you are not alone- parenting is rough!! Emily @ DavenportDIYhttp://www.davenportdiy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-79026078557740469722013-12-10T22:40:54.295-06:002013-12-10T22:40:54.295-06:00Your post brings back a lot of painful memories. I...Your post brings back a lot of painful memories. I also had a baby who cried A LOT. It was the hardest thing I've even gone through. When she finally stopped crying all of the time, it took me a long time to recover emotionally. I still feel like I missed out on the sweet newborn phase that a lot of people talk about, and there are a lot of feelings of regret and guilt, even though I know that I had no control over the situation. I just wanted to say that I totally understand where you are coming from, and I am glad you shared your story. It gets better. I promise. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-51994755568739822292013-12-10T22:20:50.219-06:002013-12-10T22:20:50.219-06:00I, too, did my time with a fussy baby. I remember ...I, too, did my time with a fussy baby. I remember sitting in the dark rocking my inconsolable newborn thinking, "well, I guess you're going to be an only child because I am never doing this again." Thankfully after 3 months my babe did a sudden 180 but I still remember the helpless feelings like it was yesterday (it was 18 months ago!). But I'm still not ready to do it all over again! Laurenhttp://www.hausofgerz.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-84577227453609657882013-12-10T21:12:48.959-06:002013-12-10T21:12:48.959-06:00Dear Joi, thanks so much for sharing your story. I...Dear Joi, thanks so much for sharing your story. I simply can't imagine the pain you dealt with. Having a baby is beyond life changing. It turns your world, marriage & life upside down and that's the truth with a good baby. Your honesty is so endearing & I pray that soon the sun comes out for your family. Thank God for a supportive husband for you too. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-38589707255994928192013-12-10T19:49:39.822-06:002013-12-10T19:49:39.822-06:00THis post truly has me in tears. I'm so sorry ...THis post truly has me in tears. I'm so sorry you have gone through this. Henry was sort of the opposite. A pretty easy baby (and I use easy lightly). But he's gotten more and more needy as he has gotten older. Maybe it's just a toddler thing, I don't know? But anyhow, this post really touched my heart. I cannot imagine going through this. You are such a wonderful mom.Kim @ NewlyWoodwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14306871325108889905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-45322977739210193392013-12-10T18:07:36.706-06:002013-12-10T18:07:36.706-06:00You are so thoughtful to share your story with oth...You are so thoughtful to share your story with others. I so appreciate your honesty and hurt with you back in those hard days. Thank you!moniquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08211725015456042763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-45416875791656713312013-12-10T17:53:14.780-06:002013-12-10T17:53:14.780-06:00I love you for writing this & for sharing it w...I love you for writing this & for sharing it w/ us. I can't even imagine how dark those months were for you, mama. I thought about you lots during that time & my heart overflowed w/ compassion.<br /><br />Though Quinn wasn't colicky, she was a fussy one. Wanted to be held all the time & only by me. I had so much anxiety even going on simple outings b/c inevitably she'd have screaming inconsolable fits & we'd have to leave. I remember a dinner at a restaurant when everyone was having fun convos & I was sequestered in the corner--nursing, rocking, unable to eat b/c the break in rhythm would send Q into discomfort.<br /><br />I felt so isolated, depressed, & exhausted. Emotionally broken, like you so aptly said. I used to be so naive! I wanted my old life back. I think as parents things not only get better, WE get better at handling what comes our way. Now when I see new moms, I can't help but search their eyes & hope that I can say the right thing to let them know they're not alone.<br /><br />Love you to the moon & back, my friend.<br />xoxoFreckleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17331986859303021665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-80437835804303369002013-12-10T11:20:32.800-06:002013-12-10T11:20:32.800-06:00Thank you for sharing this. Being a new parent is ...Thank you for sharing this. Being a new parent is terrifying. While I was fortunate not to endure this for as long as you did, I did my time as well. <br /><br />Those feelings when seeing your other friends so happy and comfortable in parenting - check and check. I was mystified - they all said they were happy, they all fell in love with their babies, it was all sunshine. It wasn't for me.<br /><br />Now, looking back, I really wish I had reached out for help with what was probably PPD and I'm grateful that it never became anything worse.<br /><br />It is so hard to adapt to parenthood, especially when you or your baby aren't acting like you're "supposed" to - whatever that means.<br /><br />It's good that you can share this now and it will surely help someone else.cdnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-82714902922340828652013-12-10T09:49:16.391-06:002013-12-10T09:49:16.391-06:00HUGS to you!HUGS to you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00940880385545241730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-20010606188826674282013-12-10T08:14:23.255-06:002013-12-10T08:14:23.255-06:00Beautifully written. I would never even try to pre...Beautifully written. I would never even try to pretend that I know what those endless days felt like, but so glad you shared.Emily @ imperfecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02269735435616304770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-71555061603396838982013-12-10T08:08:00.551-06:002013-12-10T08:08:00.551-06:00Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm ...Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sure it was tough but you will definitely touch others with your words. That song was beautiful, too. Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16305208383786287144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-91919995557914898902013-12-10T07:44:19.809-06:002013-12-10T07:44:19.809-06:00Joi - you know I get where you are coming from. I ...Joi - you know I get where you are coming from. I was probably curled up on the floor right there with you. It is hard. Beyond hard. Having a baby like we have. Even when you think it is better (because almost anything would be better), it is so awful when you look around at other kids and realize that you STILL have the most difficult baby in the group. What do you mean, your baby cuddles/coos/plays/smiles/laughs MOST days.<br /><br />Thanks for the virtual hug (not sure if you knew you were doing that). I pushed L all the way to daycare in the stroller while he SCREAMED today and I actually thought..."if I have a second, I hope he isn't like L" and then I cried a bit for feeling that way. Sigh. Can't win.LifeBegins@Thirtyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16031156921598156745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2693400887620788716.post-18333364424038391682013-12-10T07:40:02.841-06:002013-12-10T07:40:02.841-06:00This post describes my experience with my first so...This post describes my experience with my first so much! I would have described Malone was a "high needs" baby for the first 8 weeks....for me. Everyone else seemed to think she was lovely. She would scream in my face all day and the minute my husband walked in the door at night she was like an angel. Looking back, it was just me. I was so overwhelmed with my new life that I couldn't get a handle on it. I had post pardm something crazy. I remember one particular day that my husband called me to tell me he was on his way and I thought, I could just put her in her crib, he is almost home and I can leave before he gets here and never come back! Of course, I didn't. But I sure wanted to. These are the real stories of parents who struggle. Because it's not easy. It's not all roses and I honestly didn't know that going into my first. I love that spunky little girl with all my heart and regret wishing those early days away. I really can't even remember those baby days becasue I was such a wreck! You aren't alone and everyone experiences a different normal. Sounds like you are through the thick of it and I am so happy for you! So enjoy these days Momma! I like it, I love it!https://www.blogger.com/profile/13928377050959334935noreply@blogger.com